Introverts Are Not Antisocial
As an introvert, I also understand that people most of the time misunderstand introverts or the concept of introversion. It is not their fault at all. It is just that they do not know about it. These problems and struggles are most common and you probably have heard about them already, or maybe not.
There are a lot of things that we struggle with as introverts. The number one of them is; communication skills. Hardly, there can be an introvert who has never struggled with this, many of them get over it and many never. Every introvert creates his own way of communication. If you ask them you will find out that they all have different strategies to make or escape conversations. Either you get over it or not. You are going to hear this same thing about you from strangers especially, that you are rude/arrogant or antisocial.
The fact is you are not. Introverts are not psychopaths. LOL. They are also human beings, they are also social animals.
Talking about myself I’m not antisocial or arrogant at all. But anyone who meets me for the first time. Their first impression about me is usually that I’m a very serious or rude kind of person. This is because they never have enough data and knowledge about me. This is the first time they have met me. They never know anything in particular about me. People may have different reasons for believing this.
But this is also true that you have to be honest with yourself about it that are you an arrogant person or not?
After, working a lot on my communication skills. I still get to listen to these things about me. And now, I do not take these comments seriously because now I know that they are just saying those words and they are not going to believe it anymore once we get comfortable with each other. I am so used to it by now. There are a lot of examples in my life when people did change their views about me after getting comfortable. After getting comfortable their words are usually that I’m talkative and they enjoy talking to me. But as I said earlier, you also need to be honest about whether you are arrogant or not?
To answer this question you need to be really honest with yourself and get to the answer to this question. Then you will need to work on those things that are making you feel antisocial. Maybe you should work on your communication skills, maybe you need to be a little tolerant in your life, whatever it is. Work on it!
Just do not leave any room for this conception of you being arrogant or antisocial, at least for you.
As a solution, I would suggest getting better with your communication skills. I would not say that try to be like extroverts. Rather you should be acting extrovertedly when it is required. By this I mean, you need communication skills to do anything in this world. From achieving your goals to persuading your mom about something. Communication skills are all that you need. So, you need to get better at this.
Only when you have done enough with your communication skills you can choose whether you need to act extrovertedly or not in a particular situation.
Another thing that I would like to add here is that you should feel comfortable being an introvert. If you cannot find any reason for it. Find one.
The only reason acting extrovertedly is most of the time suggested is because extroverts are good at communication skills and socializing. So, you can at least learn it from them. Because unlike extroverts you know how to avoid unnecessary people in life. But like extroverts, you cannot make a conversation with anyone you want and you lose a lot of opportunities in this manner.
So, whenever someone says act extrovertedly remember they are telling you to learn what you can from extroverts.
Otherwise, as introverts you are alright. You are all good. If you do not think so, Know Thyself.
That was all, that I wanted to share this Friday. Have a happy weekend.