4 Principles Of Conversation
Conversations are hard to start, and if started, they are hard to maintain. Man is a social animal, yet we still do not have proper knowledge about how to socialize or communicate/conversate. It is even harder for us, introverts. This is one of the things that introverts struggle with the most. Unlike, extroverts they have to put conscious efforts into getting better at communication skills. Today we will be discussing some of the principles of conversations, that obviously make a conversation happen.
1. Maintain A Good Eye-Contact
Maintaining eye contact is the most basic and major principle of conversations. One should be maintaining eye contact with the other participant of the conversation. The eyes are said to be the gate to the soul as the eyes tell a lot about the person.
In the try of making eye contact people usually start staring into others’ eyes. Which is actually horrifying and it should not be done. Rather one should go for good eye contact that does not make others feel uncomfortable and also fulfill the need for eye contact. One should be looking away after a while to make eye contacts feel normal and comfortable.
2. Make Others Feel Comfortable
In a conversation with someone, you are not supposed to make others feel uncomfortable unnecessarily. Whenever we do it we compel others to create a distance from us. If we do not want someone to leave or be distant from us, then we need to make them feel comfortable around us. After all the conversations are not about the one person it is about both participants of it.
3. Don’t Force Anything
In conversations, we want to fulfill our certain fantasies, which make us force things in conversations. We may want someone to be our best friends, or we may want a specific type of humor in every conversation which is not possible with everyone we meet. So, what we should do is accept reality and try to make peace with it. This will allow us not to force anything at all. Because doing so can ruin our experience.
4. Go With The Flow
You may have observed that conversations never go the way have plan them. Instead, conversations have their own certain flow. We may start our conversation with a thing that we planned but they never go as per our plans. Rather it keeps following its own natural flow.
You may have also observed that whenever you want to talk about something and you force it in an already ongoing good conversation. It ruins the whole experience of conversation. It makes the earlier going conversation tasteless well as it also deprives us of the charm of what we wanted to talk about.
The flow in conversations is highly valuable and it should be taken seriously as it can make us master the art of conversation.
Conclusion
These principles are what make a talk look like a conversation. However, it does not mean that this can turn into a good conversation or not as the circumstances and other factors, like, the mood of both participants are also involved.